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Chiropteform Macrovirus ([personal profile] batvirii) wrote2015-11-28 09:44 pm

x-posted from FB

This year, I want to incorporate the spirit of Halloween into celebrating the holidays. Not as in bats everywhere or something (although I wouldn't object).

I used to see the holidays as a competition to prove myself with the gifts I give others, as far as materialistic value goes. But this year, I'm going to treat it how I treated Halloween: an opportunity to positively influence others.

That's the short of it. Here's the long:

On Halloween, there are people who give out full-sized candy bars. I can only afford fun-sized stuff and Ghirardelli squares. But I'm not less for not handing out full-sized candy bars (although someday, I would love to be able to do that.)

When I did Halloween this year, I was just happy about spreading seasonal cheer. I want to do the same thing this holiday season.

I don't want the holidays to be about me trying to prove my worth to others by how much I give or how much I'm able to do. I don't think it should be like that for anyone. I think there should be more emphasis on the thought behind the stuff you do during the holidays, rather than the perceived value of what it is.

Like, obviously, I can't afford to buy my parents a new car. But I am planning on getting them something, because I care about them. And that means something in itself.

In a more abstract example: acts of charity seem to be associated with the holiday season (e.g. generous donations, giving time to organizations), but I have no idea if I'll be able to actually do anything like that. But I try to be there for my friends when stuff is hard. I can listen to others. I mean, my career goals basically involve being a pro at making comfort food and a pro listener, after all.

And I think doing what you can for the people who matter to you is valuable in itself, too.